It would be foolish to marry someone who is the exact opposite of your ideal Mr. Right. Imagine having a husband who views you as unworthy of wonderful things, who dislikes being seen with you, and who only sees you as his wife. Is this not the worst nightmare ever?
Mind you, it's acceptable to judge people for deviant or immoral behavior. Take some time to consider these 15 habits before deciding to marry a man, even if you have been dating him for a long time. When you learn about these habits, you will understand that the only thing you need to do with this person is either get him put in jail or move far away from him. If he exhibits all or most of them, reject him and close the case.
1. Narrow-mindedness
The idea of spending your whole
life with a guy who is not open-minded sounds like a nightmare. You
don’t want to be with someone for the rest of your life who restraints
you from doing all the normal things just because of his fear of things
going wrong or his mistrust on you.
That kind of negativity can ruin your life and make you regret marrying him. It is better to dump such a man at once instead of later regretting it when he displays his narrow-mindedness and makes your life hell.
2. Hates Animals
Didn’t
you feel a little blasphemous even reading the phrase hates animals’?
Who on earth hates animals? Nobody does; that is the answer. So if he
does not like animals without any good reasons like allergies etc and
makes you choose between him and your pet, always choose your pet. Not
having a fondness of them is fine but literally wanting to be away from
them because ˜they are animals’ shows a great lack of empathy. You will
be living with a cruel human animal if you decide to marry him.
3. The Relationship Rules Mean Nothing To Him
He
likes to play wild, and it is not a good sign. You tell to not do
something and he does exactly the same. Not only is that disrespecting
you but it is completely disregarding the relationship rules. Every
relationship has some ground rules that need to be followed naturally by
both the partners but if he goes off the line again and again without
ever paying heed to your concerns about them, he is totally not worth
marrying. Absolute disrespect should never be appreciated or given a
second chance.
4. Breaks Promises
A little mistake or a sometimes forgetful mind can be excused and even a big promise, if broken once in a blue moon, can be forgiven too but if the frequency of promise-breaking increases visibly then it is time for some cleaning and washing. If he nods vigorously while making promises and easily breaks those only days later, it obviously means that he is making a fool out of you. That is not a good relationship to be in so reject that promise-breaker and find a keeper.
5. Gives You Secondary Treatment
It
gets messy when one of the two people is more into the relationship
than the other one. It begins to fall apart since it is all about
giving, taking, sharing and receiving, just like Joey said. So if you
are the one giving your best to the relationship while he sleeps
peacefully and does nothing at all, it means that you do not mean to him
what he means to you.
There is no point taking such an empty connection along so do not marry the guy who gives you secondary treatment when you deserve to be the first priority.
6. Doesn’t Have Moments of Epiphany
A
guy who constantly thinks that everything he does is utterly right and
his decisions can never be wrong needs to have a reality check. It is,
indeed, cruel to force someone to change for you and should not be done.
But a person ought to realize his mistakes and be ready to make changes
in himself accordingly for the sake of goodness. If he never
experiences any moments of epiphany and never doubts anything he does,
his cocksure behavior can be harmful to you as well.
7. Excessive Excuses
Excuses are only a way of saying
I am sorry but I had more important things to do and you do not matter to me as much as you think you do.
End of story.
If he has more excuses than reasons and they are all too senseless to be true, he is only trying to lie to you and if not, only feeling too lazy to include you in everything. Such behavior in the guy you are about to marry can be a turn-off and should be a turn-off.
8. Keeps The Fights Alive
Fights
are good, even healthy, but not if they never end. It is completely
okay to voice your opinions in front of your partner even if they oppose
his own and it is okay to have a discussion from two different points
of views. But if he never agrees to settle on a decision and is not
willing to let you keep your opinion, he is the problem. Both the people
involved have to respect each other differences. If he likes to the
opposite and keeps the fights alive, you need to move away.
9. Kills the Conversations
He
is a great talker, it is awesome, but as soon as it comes to you
telling a story or sharing something, he cuts you down like it does not
matter. He is the conversation killer. Not only do these habits show a
lack of conversations skills but also show your insignificance in his
opinion, how your turn does not matter and he is better off without you
pitching in on something. You don’t want to be ignored like that for the
rest of your life; never make the mistake of marrying such a
conversation killer.
10. Liar
Small lies, cute lies and insignificant lies that are told for good are excusable and even justifiable but lies that affect your relationship and are spoken again and again need to be dealt with. If not the lies then the liar needs to be confronted. Relationships are all about trust and believing in each other. If he takes that away by breaking the code of taking confidence in each other then he needs to be replaced. Lies damage a relationship slowly like termites damage wood.
11. Clingy
We
would all just get ourselves a child to go on a date with if we wanted
someone to depend on us 24/7. When men cling to us for more than usual,
it either means that they have insecurity issues or they don’t trust you
with your actions. Clingy partners are a no-no! A mature relationship
requires too independent people who can bear being away from each other
for some time for the sake of their busy adult lives. Clingy is not
normal.
12. Hates Family
No matter how annoying
our parents can get sometimes, we can never really hate them or cut them
off our lives. The family is where we started and forgetting them is no
less than a sin. If he hates his family, just because family is
annoying or for any other weak reason, then he is not fit to marry you
or anyone else. Marriage is about starting a family. How do you expect
him to start a family of his own if he is not able to cope with his own
former family?
13. Smokes
Smoking is difficult to
stop, very difficult, indeed. But if the guy you wish to marry has
never given an ear to your request of trying to give up the habit of
smoking then it means that you don’t hold a special place in his life,
which you ought to do if you plan to marry him. Continuing smoking after
the countless times you asked him not to shows you his lack of emotion.
14. Immature in His Affairs
Be
it friendship or his relationship with his boss, if he the kind of guy
who throws people off after a minor fight or quarrel, he is not the
right guy to be with. If his dealings with the people around him are
hasty and he keeps cutting people off, he can easily cut you off one
day. Impatience as a trait in the guy you are going to marry is not
good.
15. Abusive
Every other habit stops
mattering when it comes to his violent nature. Love knows nothing about
violence, be it physical or emotional. Run away from the guy who is
violent in his dealings as far as possible. Try to change him if you
think you can but do not marry him any time before he has changed. You
will be making the biggest mistake of your life if you marry a guy who
does not know how to control his anger.
